Parental Advice Week 4th – 10th July

 'How to Deal With the 'Terrible Twos'

Your lovely angelic cherub suddenly develops a personality overnight, communicating only through screaming and the word 'no' – welcome to the terrible twos. This can be an extremely challenging time for parents but it is extremely common and something most parents will go through with their children.


According to the *MAYO clinic, the 'terrible twos' can be defined as a normal stage in a child's development characterized by mood changes, temper tantrums and excessive use of the word 'no'.
This stage typically occurs when the child is beginning to struggle between their reliance on adults and their desire for independence. However, most children this age are still unable to communicate their needs or control their feelings. This can lead to frustration and misbehaviour, otherwise known as the terrible twos.
Parental Advice Week aims to help parents with children of all ages, offering tips and advice to help you through. Here, however, we have put together a little guide to help parents who are currently experiencing the wrath of the terrible twos.

Keep Calm and Don't React

When your child is having a temper outburst, it is important to remain calm. This might seem impossible, but it is important to avoid inadvertently reinforcing their behaviour. Reasoning with them may also seem sensible, but until children around 3 years old the ability to fully understand 'why' has not developed.
Keep your emotions in order, if yours escalate then so will your child's. Once the tantrum is over, speak in a relaxed tone – this will teach your child how to express their feelings in a positive way, rather than getting emotional and frustrated.

Public Tantrums


When you're in the middle of the supermarket and your child is adamant they need a four pack of Bounty, it can be hard to say no just to avoid a temper tantrum. Letting them cry at home can be one thing, but out in public can be extremely stressful and embarrassing. It's important to remember that it doesn't make you a bad parent – most of the people around you will be parents too so they will understand what you're going through.
If it's possible, it is important to remove your toddler from the situation, to the car or bathroom for example. Try not to give into their demands, if your child knows they can throw a tantrum to get what they want when you're out and about the situation will continue to repeat itself.

Prevention is better than the Cure

When your child is feeling overwhelmed, a tantrum is more likely to occur. So if they are hungry, tired or bored it is important to be prepared. Over time, you may be able to anticipate these tantrums through these cues and reactions to situations. Try and distract your child before this happens. Provide a snack, try and settle them down for a nap or play a quiet activity before the potential tantrum occurs.

Controlling a Tantrum

It is important to give your child a little bit of control over their life as this is where their frustration lies, so give them a choice of what to wear or ask what they would like to eat. However, avoid any open ended questions as this can lead to 'no' or 'why' being repeated over and over.
Make sure your child has a clear routine throughout their day, regular lunch, nap, bath and bedtimes – this will allow your child to keep to a routine and avoid becoming exhausted and overwhelmed. It is also important for them to let off lots of steam during the day. Allow them to run around outside or at the playground to keep them engaged and active. Just avoid harsh punishment; shouting will only make tantrums worse.

Making a run for it

Once your toddler finds their feet, they are going to try walk and run everywhere, including places you don't want them to go. They also probably won't listen when you shout at them to stop, which can lead you to quickly become stressed and angry at your child. It is essential to allow time for them to spend time both in and out of the buggy.
The 'roaming technique' allows your child to have the freedom they're craving, whilst also allowing you to keep the control. Let your little one know he can hop out of the pushchair, but when you shout 'Stop', they need to stop. Whenever they begin to test boundaries, make them aware they must hold on to the pushchair, which brings back the boundaries.
Founder of Parental Advice Week Adam Cox says "Parents of children of all ages need tips and advice to help cope with the challenges of parenthood. While toddlers are a good example of a particular type of challenge that parents face it's certainly not the first or last challenge they will face".
He continued "All parents could use a helping hand every now and then and Parental Advice Week was created to enable parents to seek and receive advice. From pre-pregnancy to parents with adult children you're never too old to learn a new trick or two".
Parental Advice Week is taking place on 4th - 10th July 2016. Parental Advice Week aims to provide practical and useful advice to help meet the demands of modern parenthood - always striving to discuss key topics which will benefit parents of the modern age.